I just got back from dinner with one of my dearest friends Anna. She and I are going through so many changes in our lives and I still can't believe that we are both planning on moving away from San Francisco at the same time. It initially wasn't planned that way. I was the only who was going to move and then changes started taking place at her work and now she is also relocating to Southern California. I always love talks with Anna, she's a "glass half full" kind of person and I'm so grateful that she is the way she is.
We talked about the changes going on in her life and mine. She's one of the very few people who supported our decision for me to stay home from work. Even though it really was no one else's decision to make, it really is funny how some people think they should have a say...and then they wait to see if you'll fall on your face for the choices that you've made. I'm sure I've said it before, but I'll say it again. Nothing is sadder than a human being who finds joy in another person's misery.
I'm happy to say that quitting my job has been the BEST decision we could have ever made as a family. The rewards of being home with Famani si'i each day and seeing the things that he learns and understands and teaches me are phenomenal.
Another blessing that has come from it that I wasn't expecting at all was how differently my husband and I take our roles as mother and father now. Although he works both jobs nearly five days a week, he's been so much more attentive as a father and a husband. He has so much more patience with our son than he did before and he appreciates the little time that they have together. Famani si'i in return calls his Dad several times a day just to see how he is and tell him he misses and loves him. He knows his Dad is physically away from home but his heart is with us even though he isn't there. I didn't expect that. I honestly thought he would just work and neglect all his other duties, but in fact they have improved. He feels more responsible all around. I am feeling the same with my role as a wife and mother. I don't want to waste the time that I have being idle. My mind isn't so cluttered and stressed with insignificant things. My role is clear and defined, and I am so loving that. I am so loving that I have a purpose. Although I don't see the rewards daily, I know the things I do and teach my son today will affect him in the future. Hopefully for the better. There is no more important role in my life right now than to teach my child to be a good, decent, honest, loving and genuine human being. I don't think that's a demotion by any means. If anything, it's the most important job as a parent that I have.
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