There is something that has been irritating me lately and I think I just need to get it off my chest so that I can move on. I would normally just talk to my hubby about it and he'd tell me to get over it and stop taking things so personally, but I can't help it when it concerns my son. And I also know that if my hubby knew half of these things and the way people have been to our son, he'd actually be sitting in a jail cell right now. I have noticed pretty much since the second that Famani si'i was born that I take everything quite literally and personally when it comes to him. When people stare at him when he's having a tantrum, I glare them down and make smart comments like "would you like me to put a muzzle on him." Then I get the looks like, what the hell is her problem. I don't mind advice on ways to raise my son and I also know he's not perfect and I have much to teach him, but I can't stand ignorance...especially towards little kids. I loathe judgement from people who don't know anything about my son, or what kind of personality he has, that he's just naturally active and hyper and curious and annoying and he's only three years old. For heavens sake he isn't an adult. The only way he knows how to express frustration is by crying...would they rather he punch them in the face? I mean is it me or has the whole world become oblivious to the fact that children will not and should not behave as adults. They are CHILDREN. I can't stand when I hear about how ADULTS tease him with certain things...it's okay if it's kids his own age teasing him, they don't know better, but ADULTS? What could you possibly gain from teasing a child to the point where he cries. Especially when children are so innocent minded? They don't know that when an adult is teasing them, it's actually being cruel and that it's the adult that looks like an idiot not them. Don't get me wrong, my son has a great sense of humor...but if he comes and asks for a piece of candy, don't give him an empty wrapper and eat the candy in his face. Tell him you don't have candy! I know on most of the instances I am overreacting and I can't shelter him from the cruelty and small mindedness of other people, and eventually he'll grow up and form opinions for himself of the way other's should behave...but while he's a child...he's my responsibility. If he comes running to me because an adult threw a tennis ball at his head on purpose and laughs about it with their buddies, my first reaction is to grab a bat and beat someone senseless. But then what am I teaching him? So I suck it up with tears of anger burning the back of my eyes and I calm down and I comfort my son...but I won't let him around that person anymore...because if a person can hit ANY child...not just my child...and laugh about it...then I feel sorry for them.
11.11.2010
Venting...
There is something that has been irritating me lately and I think I just need to get it off my chest so that I can move on. I would normally just talk to my hubby about it and he'd tell me to get over it and stop taking things so personally, but I can't help it when it concerns my son. And I also know that if my hubby knew half of these things and the way people have been to our son, he'd actually be sitting in a jail cell right now. I have noticed pretty much since the second that Famani si'i was born that I take everything quite literally and personally when it comes to him. When people stare at him when he's having a tantrum, I glare them down and make smart comments like "would you like me to put a muzzle on him." Then I get the looks like, what the hell is her problem. I don't mind advice on ways to raise my son and I also know he's not perfect and I have much to teach him, but I can't stand ignorance...especially towards little kids. I loathe judgement from people who don't know anything about my son, or what kind of personality he has, that he's just naturally active and hyper and curious and annoying and he's only three years old. For heavens sake he isn't an adult. The only way he knows how to express frustration is by crying...would they rather he punch them in the face? I mean is it me or has the whole world become oblivious to the fact that children will not and should not behave as adults. They are CHILDREN. I can't stand when I hear about how ADULTS tease him with certain things...it's okay if it's kids his own age teasing him, they don't know better, but ADULTS? What could you possibly gain from teasing a child to the point where he cries. Especially when children are so innocent minded? They don't know that when an adult is teasing them, it's actually being cruel and that it's the adult that looks like an idiot not them. Don't get me wrong, my son has a great sense of humor...but if he comes and asks for a piece of candy, don't give him an empty wrapper and eat the candy in his face. Tell him you don't have candy! I know on most of the instances I am overreacting and I can't shelter him from the cruelty and small mindedness of other people, and eventually he'll grow up and form opinions for himself of the way other's should behave...but while he's a child...he's my responsibility. If he comes running to me because an adult threw a tennis ball at his head on purpose and laughs about it with their buddies, my first reaction is to grab a bat and beat someone senseless. But then what am I teaching him? So I suck it up with tears of anger burning the back of my eyes and I calm down and I comfort my son...but I won't let him around that person anymore...because if a person can hit ANY child...not just my child...and laugh about it...then I feel sorry for them.
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Oh goodness.. I am with you 100% on this. Ive experienced this pur ignorance when traveling.. seriously. My reactions are much like yours. I want to punch people in the face.. stop staring at my son, he's 1 and he's tired and he's been flying for 10 hours and youre an ugly heffer who keeps staring at him. haha. I know a friend who was told to "shut their f****** kid up" yeah, I'd end up in jail for that too..
youre a good mom.. it's good to shelter them and not let them be teased etc.. I think a lot of kids who get picked on by adults when little etc turn out to be bullies etc.. keep up the good work momma
Thank you Kassie, I feel so much better just having vented about it and knowing that there is some normalcy to my reactions...lol. I know it is like 1000 worse to me because it's my own child...but really adults need to get a clue. Children are children...if you can't stand being around them...dig a hole and live in it...LOL. Love you sis...thanks for making me feel like less of a total goon.
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